What Not to Do in a Divorce

If you are considering a divorce, you have probably received a lot of advice as to what you should do. Family and friends may have told you to hire a lawyer, get your financial documents in order and be civil to your spouse throughout the process. While this is good advice, there are some things you should not do as well.

Doing the wrong things can harm your kids, make the judge look unfavorably of you and even get you in legal trouble. Don’t make costly mistakes in your divorce. Here are some things you should avoid doing during the divorce process.

Have Unrealistic Expectations

Don’t expect your divorce to make you rich. Some people are under the impression that once they split up everything and start receiving alimony and child support payments that they’ll be raking in the money. A divorce turns one household into two, so there will be less money to go around. If anything, you’ll need to change your standard of living because you’ll be seeing less money. Be prepared to budget accordingly.

Hide Assets

Your money can’t be split if your spouse doesn’t know about it, right? Hiding assets is not only unethical but also illegal. Once you file for divorce, you need to keep everything where it is. If you start moving stuff around, the court eventually will find out and you could get in trouble.

Fight Over Everything

Divorce is not a game. You don’t always need to be the winner. Don’t make divorce even more complicated than it should be. Fight over only the things that you truly want. Don’t sweat the small stuff, like trinkets and your spouse’s prized collectibles. Don’t be petty. It’s not worth it.

Seek Revenge

Divorce is typically not a happy event. People are angry and many want to seek revenge on their partners. Try to ignore these feelings. Getting back at your husband or wife can leave a bad taste in the judge’s mouth. They will see you as irrational, which will not work in your favor.

Use the Children as Pawns

If you have children, don’t use them against your spouse. Remember that your children are grieving your divorce as well. Don’t make matters worse by forcing them to take sides. Both parents should continue to love and support their children. Likewise, children should continue to love their parents as usual. They should not be influenced by parents who badmouth each other.

Contact a Maryland Divorce Lawyer Today

The media has led us to expect certain things from a divorce, but that does not mean we should. Each divorce is different and even though your friend got child custody and alimony, you may not. You should also avoid doing certain things if you want a smoother divorce.

The divorce process can be confusing. Understand what to expect by contacting a Columbia divorce attorney at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A.  Schedule a free consultation today. Fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987. We have two offices to serve you.




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