What Not To Do During Divorce

When you end your marriage, your lawyer tells you what to do. While it’s best to listen to legal advice, there are also a lot of things that you should not do during a divorce.

A divorce is an emotional and vulnerable time. Knowing the things you should avoid doing during a divorce can help you get through the process with the least amount of drama possible. Keep things stress-free for yourself and your children by avoiding these actions as you untangle your marriage.

Stop Communication With Your Ex

Unless your ex is abusive, you need to keep communicating with them to get through the divorce. When you stop talking to them, it makes the process harder. You don’t need to be their best friend, but you should be respectful and business-like.

Badmouth Your Ex

Don’t say mean things about your ex, especially in front of the kids. This is hurtful and can make your children feel bad. If you have nothing nice to say, refrain from saying anything.

Take it Out on the Kids

You may be angry about the divorce, but it’s not the kids’ fault. Be supportive during this time. Focus your energy on being there for them, not blaming them.

Go on a Shopping Spree

You may be feeling revengeful toward your ex, but now is not the time to rack up more debt. Keep in mind that you have legal bills and other debt to take care of. Adding more charges to the joint credit card will only make you look bad.

Find a New Love

This is another way in which angry exes get revenge on each other. They find another partner right away to make the ex jealous. This is not a good way to handle your divorce. After a divorce, you need to focus on yourself. A relationship should not be the priority. Plus, it could signal adultery to the court, making you look like the bad guy. It may not work in your favor in terms of asset division and child custody issues.

Make the Process More Difficult

Being difficult and prolonging the process does nothing but increase stress and make the divorce more expensive. Despite having h5 feelings about your ex and the divorce, it’s best to be cooperative. Be amicable and try your best to negotiate with your spouse. Try to be compassionate. It may be difficult, but remember—you once loved this person. Treat them with respect.

Contact a Maryland Family Law Attorney Today

Divorces are challenging and complex enough. It’s best to know what actions and behaviors to avoid so you can make the process as stress-free as possible for everyone involved.

Seek legal help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. We can guide you through the process and make sure you understand what to do and what not to do. Call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form to schedule a consultation. We have two offices to serve you.

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