Getting married is a huge deal. Ideally, you want to be with your partner forever, so you need to be on the same page with most aspects of life. While it’s OK to have some differences of opinion, you need to know what the deal breakers are and how you will handle disagreements. Otherwise, you will quickly head for divorce.
Some things are important to know before marriage. Make your marriage as strong as possible by asking your partner these questions before walking down the aisle.
This is a very important question that does not always get asked before marriage, for some reason. When it comes to kids, both partners definitely need to be on the same page. If one person wants kids but the other doesn’t, the marriage likely won’t work out. That’s because one person will have to concede and they will likely bear resentment for the rest of the marriage.
If you both want children, what happens if you struggle to get pregnant? Will you adopt or go through IVF? You both need to be on the same page in this regard as well.
Money is another sore spot for couples. In fact, it’s the top cause of divorce. Therefore, you both need to discuss financial goals. What are the priorities in terms of spending? What are you saving for? How will you pay bills? What do you expect of each other?
Everyone has deal breakers, so make sure they are identified before getting married. Some people have deal breakers about traditional things such as religion. Others have deal breakers about where to live or what career to pursue. You may also have deal breakers about your partner, such as substance abuse, infidelity, jealousy, and abuse.
Dealing with in-laws can be a huge source of frustration in a marriage. Many know their place, but some can be overbearing. Many people are still attached to their families and want to do whatever it takes to please them—even after getting married. While it’s good to honor your parents, your spouse needs to be the priority. When in-laws rule the marriage or are downright mean, it causes a lot of tension in a marriage. Think about how much time you will spend with each other’s families and stick to it.
Many couples rush to the altar, but that is not always a good idea. You need to know who you are marrying and that can take a lot of time as well as many uncomfortable conversations.
Make sure you ask your spouse the right questions before marriage or you could soon be heading to divorce court. The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you with the legal and emotional components of divorce. Schedule a consultation today. Call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form. We have two offices to serve you.
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