In the past, a person who was married for 20 years ended up staying married for life. That is no longer the case, however. Nowadays, marriages are ending after 25, 30, 35, and even 40 years. Why would someone give up on their marriage after so long?
There are many reasons. People are living longer and some decide they don’t want to spend the rest of their lives with their partner. They have other things in life they want to accomplish. Perhaps the kids are out of the house and they are ready to move on by themselves or with someone else.
In any case, a divorce in one’s 60s, 70s, and beyond can be quite devastating to one’s self-esteem. Most people at this age are focusing on retirement, not divorce. Adjusting to the single life after being married for decades can be a challenge. People have to redefine themselves, often on a reduced income and limited budget.
This can cause damage to one’s self-confidence. You may think that at your age, you may never find love again. But that’s not true. There are many more opportunities for you in life. Here are some ways to boost your self-esteem.
What are your talents? What things can you do well? Are you very organized? Are you good with money? Do you listen to others? Making a list of your attributes can help boost your self-esteem.
We are often taught to be modest, but now’s a good time to think about what you really like about yourself. What are some things that you wouldn’t change about yourself? Are you always nice to others? Are you a quick learner? Do people love to come over because you cook and entertain well? Think about how amazing you are.
You don’t have to vain about your appearance, but you should make an effort to look your best every day. Get out of the sweatpants and dress up a little. Add a little makeup and jewelry to your look. Get a haircut. Whiten your teeth. When you look good, you feel good.
They say that you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but that’s simply not true. Anyone can learn something new, no matter how old they are. Learn a new language or get lessons on how to play an instrument. Take classes on a subject you’ve always wanted to learn about. If you’re healthy enough, you can even join a sports league. The great thing about these activities is that you can meet others who share your interests, allowing you to stay social.
A divorce can make a person feel inadequate with their life. This is especially true for seniors, who may be feeling down after ending a relationship after decades of marriage.
Get help with post-divorce issues from the Columbia divorce lawyers at The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. We can provide you with resources so you can move on after divorce. Fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987 to schedule a consultation. We have two offices to serve you.
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