Marriages can be hard, especially when one person has a problem and the other person doesn’t want to deal with it. People may use a variety of tactics to shut down a conversation. One of them is called stonewalling.
Like the name suggests, when a person is stonewalling, they are putting up a wall, in a sense. They are blocking out the partner and making themselves emotionally unavailable. They may switch off during an argument, offering one- or two-word answers or even silence. Discussing a topic with them is impossible.
This defense mechanism is often something that people learn as a child. They may be afraid of conflict, so they shut down so they can maintain their security in a relationship. While the person engaging in it may not think they are doing anything wrong, the truth is that it causes a lot of anger and resentment. In some cases, it can even lead to divorce.
Want to keep your marriage intact? Learn to identify the signs of stonewalling and how you can manage it.
There are three main signs of stonewalling to look for:
If your partner is stonewalling you, you need to address it. It will not go away on its own and will only cause more problems.
Stonewalling is a tactic that many people use to avoid conflict but it can be harmful in a marriage. Problems don’t get solved and the other party gets more and more frustrated. This can eventually lead to divorce.
If you’re tired of trying to address your marriage’s problems with your spouse, it may be time to move on. Seek legal help from a Columbia divorce lawyer from The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. Schedule a free consultation by filling out the online form or calling (410) 774-5987.
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