They say that age is nothing but a number, but is that true for marriage? Some people seem to think so but studies show otherwise. Experts say that an age gap of less than five years between the partners is ideal.
But not all couples think so. In today’s society, there are many May-December relationships—the term used to describe a relationship in which the parties have a large age gap. Celebrities are especially known for these types of marriages. Some have spouses who are 20, 30, or even 40 years younger than them. And it is typically older male celebrities marrying women in their 20s and 30s (who are usually not celebrities themselves). So these men are marrying women young enough to be their child or even their grandchild. Are these marriages doomed?
These marriages are not ideal, given the fact that the larger the age gap, the higher the likelihood of divorce. Plus, there is often a social stigma involved. These marriages are often looked upon negatively. People are sure to raise eyebrows and talk in public, so if a person’s opinions about your marriage bother you, then your relationship is not likely to succeed.
But it’s not all bad. When the partnership is right, the marriage can work out. For example, music superstars Beyoncé and Jay-Z have a 12-year age difference. Amal and George Clooney have a 17-year age difference. Both marriages seem to be working out just fine.
And your marriage can as well. Here are some ways to make things work.
If you have the right attitude and are willing to put in the work, your relationship can last the test of time. May-December romances actually have a main benefit, which is laying the groundwork for more stable relationships later on. Couples are more likely to put the required thoughtfulness and attention in these marriages early on. They learn how to navigate things early on.
Age is not really a factor when it comes to happiness in a relationship. A good relationship focuses more on trust, respect, and commitment. Therefore, those in relationships with huge age gaps are more likely to put in the work and get rewarded.
It’s helpful to be curious about each other. Couples should seek out common interests and work on building memories and experiences together. Communication is also key. Couples should be willing to have discussions about issues and areas of concern.
Love is blind. While studies have shown time and time again that being close in age to your spouse is ideal, the heart wants what it wants. A couple with a large age gap can certainly have a successful marriage, but it takes a lot of hard work and effort from both parties.
May-December relationships don’t always last, though, for a variety of reasons. If your marriage has run its course, seek legal help from a Columbia divorce lawyer from The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. Let us guide you through the process. To schedule a free consultation with our office, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.
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