In the past, women were stay-at-home mothers who didn’t work. They didn’t earn any income, so they couldn’t realistically live on their own. They were pretty much stuck in a bad marriage unless their husbands initiated divorce.
Nowadays, women are still likely to face the financial stresses of divorce, but they are the ones initiating it at much higher rates. Women are also more likely to feel satisfied with post-divorce life.
So what is causing women to divorce at high rates? A huge reason is mismatch. The husbands and wives are not matched according to their values, which causes significant marital dissatisfaction.
So what exactly are the mismatches that studies show are causing women to initiate divorce? Many have to do with physical appearance. Women, of course, want an attractive husband. This means masculinity and facial symmetry are high on the list, as they signal good genes.
However, while good genes may give you some good-looking children, they may not give you the happily ever after you desire in your marriage. Men with good genes tend to favor short-term relationships over long-term marriages. Therefore, they do not make the best partners for women who desire a lifelong relationship. This means that women who earn a decent amount of money and have the means to support themselves may just do so, ending the marriage.
This leads to another mismatch: financial resources. Women want men who are not only attractive, but also successful and wealthy. While this may signal to some that a woman is a gold digger, the need for money is a desirable trait based on evolution. Women’s need to rely on men comes from back in the day when women were pregnant and breastfeeding. Women were focused on raising families while men were focused on providing for these families. When a man does not provide for their family and does not want a long-term relationship, women often do not feel motivated to stay in relationships with such men. This is why they are more likely to file for divorce.
Society has changed. Women, as a whole, no longer need to depend on men. Many have their own careers and in fact, an increasing number of women earn more than their husbands. Because they have the upper hand in the marriage, many women are not as willing to sacrifice their own happiness and well-being to make their husbands happy.
In a marriage, women tend to take on more roles, particularly those related to caregiving and household management. These workloads and marital mismatches often lead to stress and divorce.
When a woman has to do everything, there is no sense of partnership. Divorce is often the better route. Seek legal help from a Columbia family lawyer from The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. We can guide you through the process so you can divorce with ease. To schedule a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.
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