Is Living Apart Together Right For You?

Your spouse drives you nuts. You see them for a good part of your day and you’re sick of them. You love your spouse. They make a great partner, but you just can’t stand living with them.

You may think you’re weird, but actually, living apart together is a growing trend. Even celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow and her husband do it. So if you’re getting sick of having to spend all your free time with your spouse, maybe separate residences is the key to a long, happy marriage.

Living apart together is like having a long-term relationship except for the cohabitation. Some people do it for financial reasons. Maybe they have children from a previous relationship and don’t want to uproot them. Maybe the two have careers on opposite sides of the country. This is often true for movie stars, athletes, and other celebrities.

Living apart together is not really so strange. Perhaps your spouse is great marriage material, but when it comes to the day-to-day stuff, such as having dinner and conversation together, maybe things aren’t so great. It’s possible that your spouse may have quirks that you find annoying, to the point that you refuse to live with them.

Benefits of Living Apart Together

Still not convinced that living apart together is the right choice for you? Here are some other benefits to consider:

  • Less arguing. Nobody likes to argue, but spending a lot of time together can lead to petty disagreements and drama. Not seeing your partner very often makes every conversation special. The time you spend talking is meaningful. You’re not bringing up minor issues that escalate into nasty arguments.
  • Less friction from annoying behavior. We all do things that annoy even our loved ones. Maybe your spouse didn’t do the dishes. Perhaps you like to leave clutter all over the floor. You didn’t make the bed. Your spouse left the toilet seat up. These are all little annoyances that add up over time, causing bitterness and resentment. Over time, these things can strain a marriage, Living apart together makes it so these things are no longer issues.
  • More independence. By living apart together, you keep your freedom. You can stay out as late as you want. You can be spontaneous and have guests over without having to ask for permission. You can keep your hobbies and interests without annoying your spouse.

Contact a Maryland Family Law Attorney Today

Being married but not living in the same house as your spouse may seem weird. While some people embrace it, it’s not the right choice for every married couple.

Is living apart together a bad idea for your marriage? If you and your spouse cannot live together but cannot make your marriage work while living apart either, it may be time to call it quits. A Columbia family lawyer from The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you divorce with ease. For a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.


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