What To Do When You’re Feeling Disconnected From Your Spouse
A lot of us lead busy lives. Our time is spent working and raising kids. We may have hobbies and friends as well that take up our time. So at the end of the day, there’s not a lot of time to spend with our spouses.
You may make light of the situation, but it can cause marriages to suffer. When a couple has been together for a long time, their relationship becomes stagnant and boring. They may run out of things to say. They may feel as if they have nothing in common anymore.
But maybe that’s not true. It’s possible that you’re making assumptions about your spouse. People do change over time, so the things you thought you were once true may no longer apply. People are always evolving and your spouse could be too. Do you really know who they are anymore?
Maybe not. And that’s why you should always be curious about your partner. If boredom is creeping into your marriage, you can stave off divorce by playing the question game with your spouse. Read on to learn more about how to play this easy game that could possibly save your marriage.
The Question Game
The game is easy to play; you and your spouse simply take turns asking each other questions about things you want to know more about. You should particularly focus on assumptions about your partner so you can get clarification. The questions can be superficial or deep. You could ask them something as simple as their favorite food or go deeper and explore their childhood or a previous relationship.
It can also be good for each person to get a perspective of themselves from the other spouse. For example, you may want to ask your spouse if they feel that you have changed since you’ve gotten married. If you have changed, how? This can help you realize some things about yourself that could be affecting your marriage.
You should also talk about plans for the future. What are your hopes and dreams? Where do you see yourself in 10-20 years? When and where do you want to retire?
However, there needs to be some boundaries. Your spouse may not want to talk about hurtful things that happened to them in the past and that’s OK. Give them some time.
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It’s common for long-time couples to disconnect from each other. By playing this game, you can stimulate your curiosity, which makes you feel good and can help renew your relationship.
If you’re feeling disconnected from your marriage and don’t make changes quickly, a divorce could be in your future. Seek legal help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. Every divorce case is different, so let us help you get the best outcome based on your situation. Schedule a consultation today. Call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form. We have two offices to serve you.