How To Prioritize Your Children In A Divorce

Many couples get a divorce, but not all have their priorities straight. Some are worried about their pets, getting possession of the marital home, or draining the other person’s bank account. Their sole goal may be to get revenge on their spouse.

When children are involved, though, the focus needs to be on them. Many couples wrongfully think that the divorce is about them, but it’s not. It’s an event that affects the whole family and because children are often confused about what is happening, they are often affected the most.

During this time, children need reassurance that everything will be OK. They want to know that you’re not divorcing them as well. How can you prioritize your kids when your marriage is falling apart? Here are some ways you can do so.

Stay Focused

Make it clear that even though the parents won’t be living together anymore, the focus is still on the family. Your child will still be able to see both parents. They can still engage in their favorite activities. Let your child know that you and the other parent will try to minimize the disruption to their life as much as possible.

Come Up With a Parenting Plan

If you and your partner are sharing custody of the child, come up with a parenting plan that’s in the child’s best interests. Think about school schedules, extracurricular activities, holidays, and transportation. Try to break everything down and make things even.

Communicate With the Other Parent

If you have kids, know that you will have to continue some sort of relationship with the other parent. Therefore, you’re going to have to keep things amicable. You’re going to need to find the best way to communicate, whether it’s through phone calls, notes, texts, or emails. You can avoid conflict by planning and negotiating ahead of time. It’s not going to be easy. It will be a continuous battle, but you need to be an adult and get through it, for your child’s sake.

Never Put Your Children in the Middle

The divorce is between you and the other parent. Don’t get them involved in your arguments. You need to reassure your children that they will be your priority. Beyond that, keep them out of your divorce proceedings. Don’t use them as messengers or ask them to take sides. This just causes unnecessary stress for them, which can lead to behavioral issues at school or at home.

Contact a Maryland Family Law Attorney Today

Divorces can be emotional affairs, especially when children are involved. The focus needs to be on them, which can be difficult when you’re dealing with matters of your own.

The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you with the legal and emotional components of a divorce. We can come up with visitation and custody schedules with the child’s best interests in mind. To schedule a consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987. We have two offices to serve you.

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