Nobody goes into a marriage expecting to file for divorce down the road. Unfortunately, though, it does happen—about 50% of the time. People change, feelings change. As we get older and more mature, we often discover that what we wanted in our 20s is no longer what we desire as we approach middle age or retirement.
Even if your divorce is a relief, you are likely stressed out or heartbroken over the situation. You can’t expect to finalize your divorce and suddenly be fine the next day. You are mourning a relationship, and as such, there is likely to be some grief over the sense of loss or failure.
The trick is to allow yourself some time to heal, but not too much time. By continuing to portray yourself as the victim, you’re bound to miss out on wonderful opportunities coming your way. Here are some ways to recover after a divorce.
Don’t feel like you need to keep everything bottled up inside. It can be therapeutic to talk about your feeling with others. In fact, it is highly recommended if you want to move on after your divorce. A close friend or family member can provide a shoulder to cry on. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or hire a therapist to discuss your feelings. Regular counseling sessions can help you attain a better life and move on.
After a divorce, it is common for people to feel rejected and hate themselves. Don’t give in to this mindset. Think about all your positive qualities and learn to build confidence in yourself.
After a divorce, it’s all about you. You no longer have someone to tell you what you can and cannot do. If you want to try new things, nobody can stop you. Take classes. Meet up with friends. Were there hobbies and interests that you gave up when you met your spouse? If so, now is a good time to rediscover those interests.
It’s OK to be single. Don’t feel like you have to be in a relationship again. Some people think it will help them heal and forget about their divorce, while others do it for revenge on the other spouse. Start dating again when you’re ready, but take some time to enjoy the single life first. Who knows, you may not want to get married ever again.
Divorces are highly emotional. You are ending a relationship that may have lasted 10, 20, 30 or more years. Starting a new life as a single person can be absolutely terrifying.
However, just like after all emotional events, it is important to move on. The Columbia divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. understand both the legal and emotional aspects of a divorce and can help you move on. We have two offices to serve you. To schedule a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.
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