Modern Divorce Trends You Should Be Aware Of

The face of divorce has changed a lot in the past few decades. In the past, children would spend most of their time with their mother, and then see their father every weekend. Those going through a divorce would lean on their friends and family members to help them through the anger, bitterness, anxiety and stress they would experience.

Things have changed since then. We are now in the 21st century, and parents are becoming more aware of how divorce will affect their children. This has led to numerous trends that focus on making the transition from living with both parents to living with one parent as smooth as possible. Here are some of them you should be aware of if you are considering divorce.


Birdnesting is different from traditional child custody in that the parents, instead of the children, rotate in and out of the house. One parent stays in the home with the children, while the other stays nearby. Sometimes the parents live together in the same home to save on expenses.

This type of custody arrangement is the least disruptive for the children. However, it can be challenging for the parents for the long term, especially if they eventually remarry.

Soft Landings

If birdnesting is not an option, then soft landings may be the next best thing. Soft landings refer to both parents living within close proximity of each other, making the transition from one parent’s house to another fairly smooth. The family continues to spend time together and even vacation as a family. This trend is not common, and is usually done only for a temporary period of time, since it becomes awkward as the parents form new romantic relationships.

50/50 Custody

There are more and more cases of children living with both parents for an equal amount of time. They may spend three days with Mom, three days with Dad and so on. They may also follow a weekly arrangement, where they spend four days with one parent, three with the other, and switch the schedule the following week. There are many arrangements possible, but 50/50 custody has become the norm.

Divorce Apps

There are apps for everything nowadays, and divorce is no exception. There are online tools available to help divorced parents coordinate appointments, activities and events. These apps share information and track expenses while minimizing miscommunication and conflict.

Divorce Coaches

Divorce coaches are people who help those going through a divorce. They guide people through the process and work to understand their needs. These coaches have varied backgrounds and are selected based on the person’s needs. For example, divorce coaches may have financial, psychological, legal or mediation backgrounds.

Contact a Maryland Divorce Lawyer Today

Divorces no longer have to be messy situations, even when children are involved. Modern divorces focus on collaboration and communication, and if both spouses can agree to that, then they can make the process less stressful for all involved.

Are you considering a collaborative divorce? If so, there are many options available. The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can assess your situation and help you meet your needs. We have two locations in Maryland to serve you. To schedule a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.

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