Lack of Communication in a Marriage

Communication is important in any relationship. In fact, the number one cause of divorce is a lack of communication. You and your spouse may come from different backgrounds and have had different experiences, which can make talking difficult. However, a marriage relies on strong emotional and physical bonds, and you can’t have these if you and your spouse don’t talk to each other.

When you fail to share your thoughts and feelings with your spouse—the person who is supposed to be your life partner—your marriage will suffer in many ways. Even when the subject matter is awkward and difficult to discuss, you need to make an effort to communicate with your spouse. Otherwise, your sex, home and work lives will suffer. This breakdown in communication will eventually lead to divorce.

Common Communication Issues

While not talking is a huge issue, there are other communication issues that marriages often face. They include the following:

  • Nobody wants to hear constant reminders, suggestions and advice. This can cause one spouse to ignore the other or even stay away from home so they don’t have to hear the nagging.
  • Being out of sync. Our non-verbal actions must match up with our words. Otherwise, you risk miscommunication and confusion. Focus on the person my maintaining eye contact.
  • Having a win-lose attitude. Communication is about coming to an agreement with your partner, not trying to “win” an argument.
  • Interrupting and not pausing. This is often common with women, who tend to talk over their husbands and not give them enough time to answer their questions or otherwise respond to what they are saying. It’s true that men and women communicate differently, but each partner should give the other time to respond. Patience is key when it comes to communication.
Effects of Poor Communication

Nothing good comes with keeping secrets, not sharing your feelings and bottling your emotions. It makes you and your spouse disconnected. Talking helps connect you, and when you don’t talk, you don’t connect. You end up being like roommates.

Poor communication also leads to money problems. The spouses are not on the same page when it comes to spending or saving money.

A lack of communication can affect a couple’s sex life as well. One spouse may depend on the other to initiate sex. There may be disagreement about frequency and expectations, and this can cause a couple to drift apart.

No communication can lead to neglect. A partner may feel unheard and become insecure. They may then look outside the marriage to fulfill their needs, and this can lead to infidelity.

Contact a Maryland Divorce Lawyer Today

Spouses need to communicate in order to make their marriages work. When they keep quiet, they hurt their marriage. A lack of communication can cause intimacy issues, financial problems, neglect, infidelity and other issues.

If you and your spouse are having trouble communicating and you no longer feel comfortable in your marriage, it may be time to move on. The Columbia divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you divorce with ease. We can help you move on from a frustrating marriage. We have two offices to serve you. To schedule a free consultation, call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form.


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