Divorce is one of the most difficult things that a person can go through. It’s right up there with the death of a loved one, because essentially, a divorce is the death of the marriage. It’s an emotionally painful experience that involves grief, anger, bitterness and other negative emotions.
Getting yourself through a divorce can be hard enough. It’s much harder when children are involved. While older children are more likely to understand what a divorce entails, younger kids seem to be more resilient. It all depends on the situation and how you and your spouse handle it.
Divorce can cause a lot of worry and stress for a young child. So how can you help them through this difficult time? Here are some tips to make things easier on children in a divorce.
You may be angry and resentful about the divorce and your first thought may be to blame your spouse. Don’t be negative about your ex in front of the kids. Remember, that person is their parent, too, and they love them. Don’t fill your kids’ heads about negative thoughts. If you want to vent your feelings, do it away from the home with a trusted friend or therapist.
Children thrive when conflict is kept to a minimum. If you must discuss something with your ex, do it in a friendly manner. Yelling and arguing in front of the kids just makes matters worse and it forces them to take sides. You don’t want that to happen. Both parents should be involved with the children, so make the process as easy as possible.
Your children may experience a variety of feelings. They may be sad, angry, anxious, worried, confused and scared. Some kids get stressed out and act out in various ways. Many have questions about what happened and what will happen in the future. Be ready to answer these questions about where they will live, their school, friends and activities.
Each child handles situations differently. Some like to talk things out. Others prefer to write things down in a journal. In any case, you should encourage your kids to be open and honest with you about their feelings. It’s also important to offer support. Let them know their feelings are valid. Offer ways to help them feel better, like grabbing ice cream, playing a game or just taking a walk together.
While divorce is never easy for children to go through, there are things you can do as a parent to ease the emotional pain. You may be hurting as well, but you also need to be there to support your child.
Family law can be a complicated matter, as it comes with both legal and emotional components. Get the help you need from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. We can guide you through the divorce process so you can quickly and easily move on. To schedule a consultation, call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form. We have two offices to serve you.
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