Marriage is hardly ever easy. Couples fight over finances and everyday life. They may be exhausted from raising kids. Sex might become a thing of the past.
All these issues can wear down a marriage and even put the relationship on the rocks. Another increasingly common issue among couples may be their age gap. Studies show that the strongest relationships have an age gap of less than five years. However, there are many couples with gaps of 15, 20, or 30 years or more.
Maintaining a relationship when one person is much older or younger than the other requires a lot of hard work. When a couple is generations apart, they’re bound to have different goals and perspectives on life, which can impact your marriage over time. If you have an age gap and want to make the marriage last, here are some tips to consider.
The expectations may be different when one partner is decades older than the other. Do you want children together? Do you desire financial security? Will you both be working? What happens when the older partner reaches retirement? Make sure you discuss the future together.
There’s no doubt that you and your partner will be in different stages of your life, so you’ll need to figure out how you will deal with these differences. Instead of forcing your partner to conform to your ideals, you’ll need to learn to accept them.
This is something you will need to think about if you are the younger partner. You may be thrust into a caregiver role in the near future. How will you feel about having to give up favorite activities or even sex because of an aging spouse? These things can happen, so be prepared.
By doing things together, you won’t be focusing on your age gap. Meet each other’s friends. Engage in common hobbies. Try new activities together. Attend concerts or sporting activities. Be involved with each other’s lives. You’ll have fun and get to know each other better.
But keep in mind that you don’t need to be around each other all the time. There needs to be some balance. Let your spouse do their own thing and you do yours. You don’t always need to have shared experiences. It’s important to maintain your individuality as well.
May-December romances can seem fun and romantic at first, but keeping the spark alive takes a lot of effort from both parties. Dealing with age differences and the issues that come with them is not easy.
Because of this, many age gap marriages end in divorce. Seek legal help from a Columbia divorce lawyer from The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. We’ll help you navigate the often complicated process. Get started by calling (410) 774-5987 or filling out the online form.
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