Developing Routines For Children After Divorce

After a divorce, it may seem like your world is falling apart. You may be uprooted and forced to move. You may have to get a job or cut back on expenses.

Don’t forget that there will be changes to your children as well. They will also suffer due to the divorce. They may have to move and change schools. They may not see their friends as often.

Children experienced a lot of stress with a divorce. They may develop behavioral problems. They may act out in school and see their grades drop.

Because of this, children need routines. They don’t fare well when things are always changing. This gives them anxiety. Children need set schedules to help them develop a sense of normalcy. This will make them feel more secure, which will help them cope with the divorce.

Read on to find out why routines matter and what you can do after a divorce.

Why Routines Matter

Children, for the most part, don’t like surprises. They want to know what to expect every day. By doing the same things every day, they develop a sense of consistency.

This also makes children feel safe. Divorce can be scary, so knowing their routine, even if they stay with just one parent now, can be very helpful. Consistent schedules build trust and confidence, and when a child is able to trust their routine, it helps them immensely. Children are better able to concentrate on important things, such as school and friends.

How to Develop Routines

Consider the following when developing new routines:

• Maintain as much normalcy as possible. You may have to move, but what about other routines? Can your child keep attending the same school? Can they still play sports and see their friends? Try to keep as many of the same schedules as possible.
• Focus on what your child needs. This can vary based on their age and development level. How does your child feel and what do they need from you in order to feel better.
• Communicate with the other parent. Make sure you and your ex are on the same page when it comes to raising your child. Stay in regular contact and try to focus on positive communication. Badmouthing and yelling only makes children more stressed.
• Give children something fun to look forward to. Think of fun things you can do on a regular basis. For example, Friday can be pizza night. Perhaps they can do things with friends after school or on the weekends.

Contact a Maryland Family Law Attorney Today

It’s important to think about your children after a divorce. Keeping your kids on a routine can be helpful, as it can alleviate stress.

The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you and your children move on after a divorce. To schedule a consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987. We have two offices to serve you.