For many couples, marriage is supposed to last forever. So when they or their spouse decide to end their marriage, there are often many questions and emotions involved. One of them is: Is this the right decision?
After all, when a divorce is final, it’s final. You can’t go back in time and try to save your marriage. You can’t pretend like nothing ever happened. That’s why it’s important to make sure that you really want to end your marriage. You don’t want to have regrets, and surprisingly, many people do.
According to a relationship study by Avvo, 68% of people in America don’t regret being divorced. That means that 32% do regret it. Men tend to have more regrets than women, with 39% of men wishing they never got divorced, versus 27% of women.
Even Hollywood divorces come with regrets. In an interview on Good Morning America, actor Ben Affleck discussed how his biggest regret in his life was his divorce from actress Jennifer Garner. The couple divorced in 2018 after 10 years of marriage. The two share three children and while they are still friendly with each other and are co-parenting amicably, Affleck feels ashamed about divorcing and having to split up his family. It’s something he never wanted to do.
How can you avoid this same feeling of regret? If you feel like you want to end your marriage, you need to give it some thought. Here is some advice to avoid divorce regret.
Couples divorce because one or both spouses have complaints about the other. What would your spouse say about you? What things do you do that make him or her mad? What are your arguments primarily about? Do you have a drinking problem, gambling addiction or annoying habit? Do you help out around the house and care for the children? Do you contribute financially? Are you loyal to your spouse? Do you constantly lie or break promises? All of these things can cause marital strife. Everyone contributes to their marital problems in some way, so try working on yourself.
If you do decide to divorce and have regrets later, all you can do is move on and learn from your mistakes. You shouldn’t continue beating yourself up over it. Take some action to make your current situation work. Find some happiness in your life, whether this means meeting someone new or starting a new hobby. Spend time with friends and family. Work on fixing the problems that led to your divorce. Accept that the divorce happened and live in the present.
Divorce is a huge decision that requires a lot of thought. Be sure to think it through and avoid regrets. If you truly want to stay married, it requires effort from both parties. Are you and your spouse both willing to make the effort?
Sometimes ending a marriage is the right decision. A Columbia divorce lawyer at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you move on with few regrets. We have two offices to serve you. Schedule a free consultation by calling (410) 774-5987 or filling out the online form.
7310 Ritchie Highway, Suite 910
Glen Burnie, MD 21061
30 Corporate Center
10440 Little Patuxent Parkway,
Columbia, MD 21044