Why is Divorce So Painful?

No married person ever wants to get a divorce. A divorce is a complicated and emotionally painful breakup and its effects can last many years. Many people see it as a failure and find it hard to get over. They may find it hard to move on and be involved in another relationship.

If you have never been divorced before, you may wonder: Why are divorces so painful? It’s not like anyone died. Technically, no, but there is still a level of grief involved. While nobody has died, the marriage has suffered a death. This can be a huge blow to someone who truly thought that their marriage would last forever.

When we begin a relationship, it starts out on a high note. We have a lot of hopes and dreams. We desire a commitment and expect to be happily married forever. That does not always happen, unfortunately, so when the marriage ends, we experience grief as well as a lot of other negative emotions. Even when the marriage is bad, we experience a loss. You likely started your marriage with high hopes. Even when things got bad, you hoped things would get better. They didn’t, so now you are grieving the life you had planned. In many ways, it can feel like a death.

A divorce is a huge life change. You go from being married to being single. Your life changes in many ways. You may have to find a new place to live, You won’t get to see your children as often. If you never worked before, you will have to get a job now to support yourself. There’s a lot of uncertainty about the future. You may be wondering what will happen next.

A divorce will test your strength and optimism. You may think you’ll be alone forever. You’ll never find someone new. It’s OK to have these feelings at first. Everyone has doubt after a divorce. However, you will need to let go of the negativity at some point and think positively.

Remember, you are not the first person to get divorced and you surely won’t be the last. There are millions of people who have been in your same situation, so don’t feel as though you have to go through it alone. Get support from friends and family members. Join a local support group with others who have been divorced. If necessary, seek therapy to help you move on.

Contact a Maryland Family Law Attorney Today

Divorces are hard to deal with because they represent a loss or failure, which is hard for many people to comprehend. Even if the marriage was bad and you are relieved to be out of it, you will still experience some degree of grief, and that is to be expected.

Dealing with divorce is never easy. Let the Columbia divorce lawyers at The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. guide you through this emotional time. Our team can help you move on with ease. To get started, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987. We have two offices to serve you.

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