What should I consider when leaving an abusive marriage?

Nobody deserves to live in a home where he or she is being subjected to abuse. If you are currently in an abusive relationship, which includes physical, emotional, sexual or financial abuse, you might want to consider leaving.

Walking away is going to be very difficult. You will likely have to deal with emotional turmoil, as well as logistical and financial issues, when you leave an abusive relationship. One thing that you should do is to make sure that you have a plan if possible.

What should I do if I want to plan to leave?

If you plan to leave and aren’t in fear for your safety, you should try to save money, find a place to go when you leave and get copies of any documents you might need. When you save money, make sure that you plan for any expense that you might have when you walk away. Paying for a hotel, for example, will require money. The place you go should be somewhere you know you will be safe. This could be anywhere from a trusted friend’s house to a shelter. The documentation you might need includes copies of financial records, birth certificate, Social Security card, your photo identification, education records and similar documents for you. Getting applicable items for your children is also important if you are leaving with them.

What if I fear for my safety?

If you fear for your safety, you might not have time to gather documents or save money. Your safety is the most important thing you have to think about. If you have to leave with nothing but the clothes on your back in order to avoid harm, then just leave. It might be difficult, but you can always get new things. Plus, you can always head to court for help getting your belongings. You can also petition the court for a protective order that will make it illegal for your abuser to come within a certain distance of you or contact you in any way.

Source: FindLaw, “Legal Tips for Escaping a Domestic Violence Relationship,” Christopher Coble, Esq., accessed Aug. 12, 2017