It’s no surprise that a marriage can’t thrive without effective communication. If you and your spouse can’t talk to each other in a thoughtful way, then your relationship is likely doomed.
Many couples fight on a regular basis, and these arguments, even if they are small ones, build up over time. They lead to bitterness and resentment, which can erode the marriage and eventually lead to divorce.
To communicate effectively in a marriage, whether you talk about little things or big things, you need to do so thoughtfully. You need to be clear in your communication, because even small misunderstandings can grow into huge issues that can eventually end a marriage. Here are some tips to be more thoughtful when talking to your spouse.
It’s not usually the huge issues that end a marriage. Marriages typically don’t end because of one fight. While the common saying tells you not to sweat the small stuff, in a marriage, it’s the small things you need to worry about. Misunderstandings can add up over time and cause a huge issue. For example, teasing a spouse can lead to insecurity and resentment. This can grow over time and cause a lack of affection. Communication breaks down and the couple grows distant and, after some time, divorces.
Be careful of what you say and how you say it. Even constructive criticism can be hurtful. People respond better to positivity than nagging or hurtful words. Instead of criticizing your spouse for what they do or do not do, stay positive. Praise your partner for the little things that they do to make you happy. They’re more likely to keep doing it, whereas if you constantly criticize, it will only cause them to get defensive.
For especially difficult conversations, it may be better to have it in writing, such as in the form of an email or text. By approaching someone face-to-face, you’re putting them on the defensive. This can cause them to feel uncomfortable and they’ll be less likely to want to talk about the issue.
Instead, put your thoughts and feelings into a text or email. Let you partner that they did something that hurt you and you want to discuss it. Just make sure it’s carefully worded. By sending this message in written form, you’re allowing your spouse to review it at his or her leisure and think about what they did. You can then follow up with your spouse and see when they are ready to discuss the situation.
Communication is important in all relationships. If you and your spouse can’t seem to do anything but fight and hurt each other, then it may be time to move on.
Communication problems often lead to divorce. If your marriage is headed in that direction, the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you end your marriage. Schedule a free consultation today. Call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form. We have two offices to serve you.
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