Things have changed in your marriage. After more than a decade of marriage, you and your spouse rarely talk anymore. There is no intimacy. You keep things from each other.
Is it time to divorce and move on? Should you try marriage counseling first? Possibly. It can help resolve conflicts and improve your relationship. For some couples, counseling has saved their marriage. It could work for you as well. Here are some signs that you could benefit from marriage counseling.
A lot of issues in relationships in general center on communication. The things you say (or don’t say) can lead to major arguments and tension. A therapist can help you and your spouse learn how to communicate more effectively.
On the other end of the spectrum, some couples have to voice their opinion on everything, turning everything into an argument. This type of negative communication is just as bad as staying silent. When every word you or your spouse says causes friction, your communication style needs to be addressed. If you can’t communicate without fighting, then it’s time to see a therapist who can teach you how to speak more effectively.
While you don’t need to tell your spouse every little detail about your life, if you’re going out of your way to hide things from your significant other, something needs to change. It’s OK to have some privacy in your life, but there still needs to be some honesty. Your partner needs to be your best friend, but that’s hard to do if you’re living a secret life they don’t know about.
While many couples may think sex isn’t that important in a marriage, it really is. A lack of intimacy is linked to a lack of quality in a relationship. Couples who have sex more often tend to have better-quality relationships. While the amount of sex we have may change as we get older, if your sex life has changed dramatically, then something is wrong. A therapist can help recommend activities to get your sex life back on track.
For many people, cheating is a dealbreaker. While some marriages do survive infidelity, it takes a lot of work and communication to move forward. The cheating spouse will likely feel shame, guilt, and regret, while the other spouse may feel angry and insecure. Counseling can help a couple work through these feelings and improve their relationship.
You should always make a last-ditch effort to save your marriage before filing for divorce. For many people, marriage counseling is that final effort.
Will marriage counseling work for you? It might, it might not. If it doesn’t, it may be time to end the marriage. Seek legal help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at The Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. Schedule a consultation by filling out the online form or calling (410) 774-5987. We have two offices to serve you.
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