After a divorce, many people desire a fresh start. They meet someone new and get remarried. Believe it or not, many couples realize that they are still in love and they remarry each other. In fact, as many as 15% of divorced couples will remarry each other.
This may seem pointless. After all, why would a couple go through the stress of a divorce, only to get back together? What a waste of time and money!
While there are plenty of fish in the sea, sometimes the grass isn’t greener on the other side. Being single and free isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. After time apart, some couples realize that they made a mistake and they still love each other.
The main reason why couples get back together is that they miss each other. Time heals wounds. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. As cliche as these saying may be, they are actually true in some cases. When a couple has been married a long time and they suddenly spend some time apart, they may realize they were meant to be together. Nobody else can fill that void.
Some couples divorce for stupid reasons. They may think they married too young and desire something else. Some divorce over stupid arguments that could have been easily resolved with some communication.
In some cases, one person has bad habits—such as gambling, alcoholism, drug use, anger issues or spending too much money—and that person finally gets help to overcome their issues. Once this happens, the other party sometimes falls back in love with the person.
Some people learn to forgive and forget. We’re not perfect and once a person realizes that their spouse is going to make mistakes, they can learn to forgive instead of bringing up the past. When they learn to let go of the issues that happened in the past, they can have a better relationship with their spouse.
So how can you and your spouse stay married for good this time around? First, resolve the issues that caused the divorce in the first place. You may want to attend a marriage education course or counseling sessions.
Accept responsibility for the divorce and don’t make the same mistakes again. Be realistic with your expectations. Nobody is perfect. Focus on putting in the time and effort to make things work.
Remarriages have a higher rate of divorce than first marriages, especially when you’re remarrying an ex-spouse. If you decide you want to remarry an ex-spouse, consider the level of effort and commitment you will need to make things work.
Will your marriage endure the second time around? If the problems you had with your ex-spouse never got resolved and you are contemplating divorce again, seek help from the Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. Our knowledgeable team can guide you through the process. We have two offices to serve you. Schedule a free consultation by filling out the online form or calling (410) 774-5987.
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