Summer is known for barbecues, pool parties, vacations and, oddly enough, divorces. The divorce rates are at their highest in August and March. The reasoning behind this is families tend to spend more time together in the summer, which can lead to heightened tensions and more arguments. If there were already problems in the marriage, summer breaks can send a marriage to its breaking point. This causes divorce rates to spike in August and September, as kids go back to school and parents decide to call it quits.
No matter when you decide to divorce, planning is crucial. You should not have a fight with your spouse and expect to see a lawyer the next day. You should take several months to plan. This includes having conversations with your family about your decision and gathering the documents you need to proceed. This step is the most time-consuming. Unless you are in charge of your family’s finances, you may know little about all the debts and accounts you and your spouse have. You will need to provide documentation of all your assets and liabilities, including the house, vehicles, bank accounts, retirement accounts, credit cards, student loans and personal loans.
If children are involved, they should not be told much until the divorce affects them personally. It’s best to wait until there is a solid plan in place so they’re confused about what is going on. While your child may be upset, keep in mind that children are resilient. They will get through it. Don’t stay together simply for the children.
Summer is a good time to collect statements and all the other documents you will need for your lawyer. It is also a good time to research lawyers and let your friends and family know of your decision so they can be there to offer the emotional support you will need during this difficult time.
This time of year is also ideal for reflecting on what you really want. What are the underlying issues in the marriage? Can they be resolved? If so, marital counseling or some sort of therapy is a lot cheaper than divorce. You and your spouse can both work on your issues and determine which path your marriage should take. Sometimes a marriage can be saved, but in some cases, divorce may be the better option.
If you are unsure about divorce, it doesn’t hurt to schedule a consultation with a family law attorney anyway and get some advice. An attorney can help you understand the process, the costs involved and what outcomes you can expect once your divorce finalized. You may decide that divorce is not the best option at this time.
A divorce can happen any time of the year, and it’s best to be prepared. If you are ready to end your marriage, start the planning process now. Take stock of your finances.
The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can simplify your divorce as much as possible to reduce the stress and help you start your new life as a single man or woman. We have two offices to serve you. Call (410) 774-5987 or fill out the online form to schedule a free consultation.
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