Know how to make joint custody a bit easier
Having a child with someone means that you are tied to that person, even if your marriage ends. Child custody cases can be difficult to handle; however, if you go into the situation with the right attitude and a plan, you might be able to make things easier for yourself.
One thing that you can do is remember that just because your ex made a bad spouse doesn’t mean that he or she is a bad parent. As long as the parent is acting in a loving and responsible way with your children, you shouldn’t come between them.
Another thing to remember is that your children have to be your focus. You can’t fall into the habit of making decisions based on what is easier for you and what will hurt your ex. Instead, make every decision based on your children.
Next, keep your thoughts to yourself. Don’t air out dirty laundry to your children. Don’t speak negatively of your ex in front of the children. There isn’t any reason why your children should feel they have to choose between parents or try to decide who was in the wrong in the divorce.
Additionally, you should make sure that you are thinking logically and honestly. If you know that your work schedule will prevent you from picking up the children from school or day care, but your ex can get them and is willing to, you might consider letting that happen.
Ultimately, you have to decide what aspects of child custody are worth fighting for. Once you decide this, you can formulate your plan and move forward with it.
Source: Parents, “9 Rules to Make Joint Child Custody Work,” Kate Bayless, accessed Sep. 01, 2017