Do you ever feel like you are living in a lonely marriage, even though you may spend a lot of time with your spouse? Many couples do. You could be in the same room watching TV together. You could be in a car for several hours traveling to a far-away destination. While you may be technically with the other person, you could be feeling disconnected. You have nothing to say to each other. Your marriage has become a boring existence.
If you are in a lonely marriage, you may feel as though you and your spouse are never connected as “one.” You both are living separate lives. You are afraid of talking to each other, for fear of arguing. You don’t pay attention to each other. You have no idea what your spouse does all day or what he or she is thinking about. If there are problems in your marriage, they are never discussed.
You may continue to have sex, but your heart may no longer be into it, as there is no longer any emotional connection. Your spouse cannot give you what you need, so you look elsewhere. You take up new interests to get out of the house and meet people. You feel happy. You may even have an affair. But then you go back home and you are sad and lonely, once again.
What do you do in this situation? Do you continue with your marriage, just going through the motions and being miserable? Or do you divorce and move on?
When dealing with loneliness in a marriage, someone needs to address the issue. Your spouse may be feeling the same way. Therefore, discuss the issue and explain your feelings. Let your spouse know what you’re looking for in a marriage. If anything, just talk randomly. Discuss your experiences? Communication can cure many issues in a marriage, so just talk.
The next step is to seek professional help. A marriage counselor can assess the problems you and your spouse are having and look for ways to overcome them. Of course, it is best if you both can attend these sessions, but even if you go alone, you can come back with some insights that can help strengthen your marriage and hopefully get you and your spouse on the same page again.
It’s the little things that can help you and your spouse relive the romance you once had. Share fun memories. Laugh together. Do small favors for each other. Let your spouse know that they can rely on you and that you appreciate them. These are small gestures but powerful ones that can restore your marriage.
If talking to your spouse or a therapist does little to resolve the loneliness you feel, it may be time to move on. Nobody should feel ignored or disrespected in their marriage.
The Columbia divorce lawyers at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you move on from your boring, stagnant marriage. It is possible that a more exciting life could await you after divorce. Learn about your options by calling (410) 774-5987 or filling out the online form. We have two offices to serve you.
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