Divorce can be scary. Do you know what can be even scarier? Dating after divorce. After being with the same person for possibly several decades, you may not even remember what it was like to date someone. You may have forgotten about those first date jitters or the butterflies you felt when you were attracted to someone.
You may have dated in a time when there were no apps and you actually had to meet someone in person. Yes, dating has changed a lot in the past few decades, but that doesn’t mean it has to be stressful.
When you’re ready to move on, having someone new in your life can be a lot of fun. Plus, after your divorce, you’ll likely have a better idea of what you want and what you don’t want in a future relationship. Here are some things to think about before stepping out in the dating pool after a divorce.
Some people rush into a new relationship and are ready to get married again even before their divorce is finalized. Even if you already know your marriage is over, it’s important to give yourself some time and space. Don’t be in a hurry to start a new relationship right away. Experts recommend giving yourself at least a year to recover from the emotional drain of the divorce.
Your first date after a divorce likely won’t lead to a long-term relationship or even marriage. You will likely deal with challenges as you readjust to single life after being married for so long. Focus on having fun and learning more about yourself and what you desire in a partner rather than worrying about whether or not your first date will result in a walk down the aisle.
Everyone has some sort of baggage, so don’t try to hide it. The truth will come out eventually, so don’t lie about your job, your interests and whether or not you have kids. Don’t be misleading about your past relationships. You don’t have to spill all the details on your first date, but if you plan to have a future with someone, you need to have full disclosure. After all, it’s important to find someone who shares your goals, interests and values.
There are dozens of dating sites, and each has a different goal. For example, eHarmony is about assessing various factors to help you find compatible matches, while apps like Tinder are solely for hooking up. Determine what kind of relationship you desire and choose the app that best fits your needs.
After a messy divorce, the last thing on your mind may be starting a new relationship. However, once you have healed and are ready to move on, you may discover that you feel lonely and want someone in your life again.
The Columbia divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you move on after a divorce. To schedule a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.
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