Brutal Divorce Tactics to Avoid

Many people avoid divorcing at all costs because they are scared of what their spouse will do during the process. While some couples try to work things out amicably, others plot revenge and put their spouse through hell. They use brutal tactics that delay the divorce, cause financial hardship and prevent the other spouse from seeing their children.

Why do people do this? Some people just have to win at everything, and their divorce is no exception. They engage in manipulation and other mind games so they can come out ahead. They’re willing to do what it takes to frustrate their spouse to the point where they simply give in to all the demands—even if it takes hundreds of thousands of dollars and takes several years to finalize the divorce. Read on to understand these tactics and what to do if you’re a victim.

Common Tactics
  • Delaying the divorce. The spouse will do whatever they can to make sure the divorce is not finalized in an expedient manner. They may refuse to agree on a settlement. They may argue over trivial details and keep adding new conditions.
  • Draining the joint bank accounts. When one spouse takes all the money out of a joint account, the other spouse is left with nothing unless they have money elsewhere. This makes it hard to pay bills. Automatic payments will not go through. Checks may bounce.
  • Maxing out or canceling credit cards. Along the same line, a person may go to pay for gas or groceries, only to find out that their card was maxed out or canceled altogether. This is a huge financial burden that a person should tell their attorney about so they can schedule an emergency hearing.
  • Cutting off utilities. A revengeful spouse may cut off the utilities in the other spouse’s home without warning. The person won’t know until they’re in the dark because their electricity was shut off. Their cell phone or cable TV may no longer work.
  • Petition for primary custody. The spouses may agree to joint custody, but then one spouse suddenly petitions for primary custody. This is often done not because the spouse wants primary custody, but they want the other spouse to concede on other issues.
What to Do if You’re a Victim

Look for manipulative tactics and power plays from your spouse. If they happen, keep your cool. Don’t stoop to your spouse’s level and plan your own revenge. This will only make matters worse. Instead, think ahead and be positive. Keep your lawyer informed. They can tell you what to do next.

Contact a Maryland Divorce Lawyer Today

Divorces are difficult enough, so try to make things as easy and stress-free as possible. Avoid mean-spirited tactics that will delay the inevitable and cost you more in the long run.

Columbia divorce lawyer at the Law Offices of Todd K. Mohink, P.A. can help you get through your divorce as quickly and inexpensively as possible and look for any tactics that will derail your divorce. We have two offices to serve you. To schedule a free consultation, fill out the online form or call (410) 774-5987.


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